The Weekly Encourager – December 12, 2016 – Presents or Presence?

What gifts are you hoping to get this Christmas? One year our family ran into another Christian family shortly after Christmas. The question each of them, from the oldest to the youngest, asked me was “What did you get?” I was a bit thrown off, since I don't put a lot of emphasis on expensive gifts. After many years, I've finally succeeded in convincing my family not to give me objects they bought at a store, but experiences that I will enjoy, preferably with the person giving the gift. Bonus points if you include other family members! During the last couple of years I've been so happy to go on special museum days with one son, and to special performances with my other son. My children's “x hours of tech support” coupons are always welcome, too. Last year my husband and I enjoyed a weekend away at a B&B as our Christmas gift to each other. A good friend and I went out for a nice dinner. With this approach, I get to spend time with my loved ones, and the joy of Christmas extends well into the new year.

Gary Chapman's famous book “The Five Love Languages” asserts that different people experience love in different ways. So I'd like to challenge you to find out what would make your family and friends the most happy. For me, what I want most is quality time together. It doesn't have to cost much money, but a few hours spent with someone means much more to me than another item of clothing or object for my house. Of course, I'm fortunate to have everything I need already, by God's generosity! Younger folks just starting out may desire practical items they need, and that's fine. Some people really value luxury gifts or experiences, while others appreciate deeds such as breakfast in bed, building a playhouse, cooking Christmas dinner, etc. Some people are waiting for words of affirmation, perhaps written in a letter or poem. Others long for good hugs or cuddles.

When asked what I got for Christmas, my usual answer is about the love, joy, and peace of Christ at this special time of year. Whatever kind of gifts we're giving or receiving this year, let us always be aware that the first gift of Christmas was not gold, frankincense, or myrrh, but a child. This Holy Child came to meet all our needs, including time (eternal life with Jesus and all the saints!), possessions (rich inheritance of grace and peace, mansions in heaven!), affection (beloved children of God in the fellowship of the Spirit!), deeds (He gave His life for us!), and affirming words (all the promises of the Bible!).

Jesus came with presence, to be God with us in the most meaningful, life-changing way. Through this gift, He mercifully and graciously meets our need for salvation from our sin. Remember, your child will follow your example, not your advice. When talking about gifts this Christmas, I encourage you to ask not, “What did I get?” but, “What did I give?” But first, ask, “What did God give?” and “Have I thanked Him lately?”

A blessed Christmas Season to all,
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