The Weekly Encourager – August 1, 2017 – An Offering

Here is a thoughtful poem which is a follow-up to my previous post about giving all our talents and blessings back to God for Him to use when and how He pleases.

An Offering by Eileen Berry

O Christ, who spared not any cost
Nor any grace withheld,
But poured forth Your redeeming blood
In love unparalleled;
What would You have me offer, Lord?
What must I count as loss
That I may taste the fellowship
That brings me near Your cross?

Why should I cling to gifts You give?
Why grasp in foolish pride
What You, who gave Yourself for me,
Now bid me lay aside?
To know You is my highest gain,
Worth any sacrifice,
A treasure worthy to possess
At any earthly price.

Yet if behind my open hands,
My heart shrinks from the cost,
Teach me that nothing offered You
Is ever truly lost.
A hundredfold reward awaits
In one glimpse of Your face,
My sacrifice forgotten
In the riches of Your grace.

The Apostle Paul wrote, “But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him.” - Philippians 3:7-9a

John, beloved of Jesus, wrote, “He must increase, but I must decrease.” - John 3:30 Oh, let me understand this!

God is faithful,
j

“The Offering” has been set to lovely music by Dan Forrest. He describes it as “a musical unfolding of the balance between anything we could possibly offer and Christ's supreme sacrifice.” To hear it, visit http://danforrest.com/music-catalog/an-offering/

My thanks to Holly Novak, who sent me this poem.

The Weekly Encourager – July 20, 2017 – Earthly Failure, Eternal Gain

Has God taken away an ability you once had? Do you feel a sense of loss that you can longer do what you once did well? Was it something that made you feel good about yourself? Something that others admired? How have you dealt with this loss? Are you angry, sad, or resigned? The Scripture calls us to be thankful in all things. By God's grace, can you turn this circumstance into praise?

God gifted my friend Amy with a beautiful singing voice. Her lifelong dream has been to use her musical talent to record an album, but she got very sick. For several years she has suffered from serious health issues.

Amy wrote, “I can boast in my weakness and in my sufferings because His strength is glorified in it. When I am weak, He is strong. This week I made a recording of a song and sent it to a very few trustworthy friends. I had several people who lovingly corrected me on my singing capability. It may be one of the kindest things to have had friends who spoke the truth to me. But I have to thank God Himself right now, due to the reality check that I had to have with myself.

“First, I only have to be one thing in this life and it is me. While others may be capable of more in an area, I am only called to do 'me' and that is enough. Also, there is nothing wrong with disappointment, frustration and earthly failures. It is a gift of God in weakness to keep me humbled in Him. What a relief that God does indeed maintain my spiritual walk with Him far more than I do. Ultimately what is earthly failure can be eternal gain.

“Lastly, I'm grateful that God has allowed me to use my music talents for Him at all. It is a gift of God to desire to serve Him, though in weakness. Three years ago I was in a hospital dying...back then the doctors predicted that this malignancy would prove fatal earlier in life. I'm grateful that He's allowed me any progress at all.

“My confession today is that I can boast in this vocal weakness because the Blood of Jesus has set me free to do so. I don't need to be better than anyone else vocally. I need Jesus. That's about it. But in this life, Jesus gives us more than just Himself. He often gives us our hearts' desires, particularly when placed in His hands, but not always.

“So today, I commit that my voice is His. My pride is gone. I don't need to sing well. It's is merely a desire of my heart, that I have believed to be from Him. However, I am OK with me. I know that I want Him to make my voice do whatever He wants, even if it is to stop. May His will be done in my voice as it is in Heaven. My desire is not enough pleasure to me to displease Him. I don't need man's approval, but I do need His.”

Amy's public confession had special significance for me. I have had to wrestle with the fact of losing my professional singing voice and career, a career which brought me a lot of satisfaction, as well as the admiration of others and a decent income. Amy feels that if she is not completely willing to give up her talent, then He can't use her, either by giving opportunity to use her voice, or by enabling her to accept the answer No. She doesn't want to become resentful, but to remain “tender” in her heart, even through loss.

I remember one time as a teenager when I was a guest soloist at my voice teacher's church. After the service, an older lady I didn't know came up to me and complimented me. Then she said something I will never forget, “Use your voice for the Lord.” God is sovereign over all things, including the gifts He gives us to honor Him.

“Do not fear, O land, rejoice and be glad, for the Lord has done great things….So rejoice, O sons of Zion, and be glad in the Lord your God...I will make up to you for the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the creeping locust, the stripping locust, and the gnawing locust, my great army which I sent among you. And you shall have plenty to eat and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, who has dealt wondrously with you.” - Joel 2:21-26

This is the same God who created us from dust to rise up and breathe deep and serve Him with thanksgiving! We “come before His presence with singing” even if He takes away our voices. He will make up to us any loss that we endure in this life. He will restore all that was lost, and it will be better than before.

So give Him all your honest emotions. Be completely willing to give back your gifts, your education, your health, your money, your time, even your loved ones. Fight the good fight, grateful for whatever ministry He provides. In Christ, who died and rose again, losing everything only to gain it back with glory, earthly failure can be eternal gain.

God is faithful and good,
j

Quotations above are from a conversation with my friend Amy Fortner Nelson and her friend Donna Miller on Facebook, June 18-19, 2017. Used and edited by permission.

 

 

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – June 29, 2017 – Church Covenant

What are the responsibilities of church membership? Did you make a promise or take vows when you joined your church? Have you reviewed those vows lately to see how you're doing? Last weekend we visited a church we like down at the beach. In the bulletin was a copy of their “Church Covenant,” which was thought-provoking. Even though I'm from a different church and a different denomination, I found it beneficial to read their document. Hope you will, too!

Church Covenant

Having been led as we believe by the Spirit of God to receive the Lord Jesus Christ as our Savior and on the profession of our faith having been baptized in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost, we do covenant by the grace of God:

1. to walk together in Christian love, dealing with any disagreement or conflict that might arise in a timely and biblical manner.

2. to promote the spiritual welfare of others within the church.

3. to be sensitive to the physical needs of others, and to do what we can to meet those needs.

4. to attend faithfully the services of the church.

5. to support the church faithfully with our tithes and offerings.

6. to participate, as the Lord directs and provides, in the ministries of the church.

7. to live a life separated from worldliness and separated unto holiness.

8. to control the use of our tongues for the furtherance of the will of God, and not to participate in speech that could be considered as backbiting, gossip, or divisive.

9. to be zealous in our attempt to reach the lost.

10. to constantly keep before us, as we are making decisions as a church, the one overriding question that is at the center of every decision - “What does God want us to do?”

–--
Did any of these convict your heart? Numbers 1 and 8 are particularly good reminders for me. How do I personally deal with disagreement or conflict in my church body? Do I seek to resolve issues promptly, or do I let them fester? If there's a problem in the church, do I complain and gossip to my friends, or do I address the church leaders with respect and gratitude for their service? Is my conversation honoring to God and kind to others? And one more thing that this covenant (above) leaves out: am I praying for the leaders of my church on a regular basis? They have a tough job, and they need God's help.

“Let us hold fast to the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as your see the Day drawing near.” - Hebrews 10:23-25 ESV

God is faithful,
j

This “Church Covenant” was from the June 26, 2017, bulletin of Still Waters Independent Baptist Church, Nags Head, NC (edited).

The Weekly Encourager – June 22, 2017 – Thankfulness

This week's post could be called Under the Influence, Part 2, because I'm sharing some Scriptures that should influence us in a positive way.

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” - I Thessalonians 5:16-18

Do you suffer from the sin of ungratefulness, complaining, murmuring, and whining? Do you cause others around you to suffer by your lack of thankfulness? If so, repent and read these Scriptures. It may be wise to memorize some of them. Our thoughts need to be under the influence of the Holy Spirit, and He is characterized by thankfulness.

Facing persecution and possible death, “Daniel...continued kneeling on his knees three times a day, praying and giving thanks before his God.” - Daniel 6:10

David said, “I will bless the Lord at all times, His praise shall continually be in my mouth.” - Psalm 34:1

Paul encourages us to be “always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” - Ephesians 5:20

Again, “in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” - Philippians 4:6

“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” - Colossians 3:17

Do you feel as if God owes you something? Have you been treated unfairly?  A Christian woman told me that, in her marriage, her husband had gotten a better deal than she had. I was so shocked I couldn't speak. Her evident pride in feeling superior to her husband in several ways, including spiritually, was a far worse sin than the faults she complained about in her husband. Lord, let me never think that my husband got a better deal than I did in our marriage!

“Who can discern his errors? Acquit me of hidden faults. Also, keep back your servant from presumptuous sins; let them not rule over me, then I will be blameless...” - Psalm 19:12-13

“By Him therefore, let us offer the sacrifice of praise continually...” - Hebrews 13:5

Has God taken away something that you loved? Is He asking you to give up something or someone that your heart desires?

Job lost everything and everyone that was important to him, yet he said, “Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked I shall return there. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.” - Job 1:21

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” - Psalm 37:4

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness; and all these things will be added to you.” - Matthew 6:33

Note that no extenuating circumstances are given in any of these verses! There are no good reasons in the Bible to be ungrateful. There is no Scriptural support for any of us feeling like we have a right to complain about our lot in life. That's Satan whispering into our ear, or the world, or our own deceptive hearts. Of course there is a place for sharing our struggles with a selected few in a godly way, particularly in the context asking for prayer or wise counsel. But attitude is everything. Circumstances may humble us, but we fall on our knees and thank God still. He is good, He is wise, He is loving, He is fair. Never doubt who He is, and who we are before Him! In everything give thanks.

God is faithful,
j

The Weekly Encourager – June 14, 2017 – Under the Influence

It's graduation season. Are you driving under the influence of alcohol? After surgery on Friday, I was told not to drive while under the influence of narcotics I had been given. Since then, I've been thinking about what other influences I may be under.

A Christian brother shared about the negative influence of depression in his life. We reminded him that many of these thoughts are whispers from Satan. Having suffered from depression myself, I have learned that many of the Downer D feelings – depression, discouragement, destruction, doubt, and their denizens – come straight from the Devil. As Bible teacher Kay Arthur says, we need to “Philippians 4:8 it.” In other words, put a filter over your ears to reject whatever is not pure, noble, good, and beautiful.

As people who follow the Lord, we must take every thought captive to Christ. Lots of folks wear earbuds these days. We need to let the Word of God act as a permanent earbud, filtering everything we hear before it becomes ingrained as a pattern. This is especially true of negative self-talk. Any time we catch ourselves thinking what horrible people we are, having already repented of sin, we can counter that lie with Truth. Counter D with T. God sent His only Son to die for us, forgiving us of every sin (yes, even the ones we struggle with the most). We are wholly accepted and beloved in Christ, adopted into His family for all time. God is able to pour His power into our hopeless situations; nothing is impossible with God; when I am weak He is strong. Thanks be to God!

Such positive promises of Scripture are our lifeline in the Downer D times. But if we're too far down, we may forget to reach for that lifeline. At that point, Satan steps in the door and asks, “Where's the beer?” Resist the human tendency to welcome this salesman into the house for a party! We need to be ready at all times for whatever the world, the flesh, and the devil may throw at us. We need to operate under the influence of God's Word at all times, whether driving a car or lying in bed, whether alone or interacting with other people.

I saw this on Sunday evening when two friends stopped by unannounced. I had no warning of their visit, so I had no opportunity to get my mind prepared and to pray that I would be a blessing to them. I wasn't particularly under a godly influence at the time either – my mind was wandering as I watched a series on Netflix. (Did I mention that this series, while very well done, is kind of a Downer?) The two well-meaning friends caught me unaware, so I had few filters on my speech, and I ended up saying some hurtful things to dear friends who came only to show me kindness! What a shame that I wasn't more gracious. Next morning I had to send out an apology.

How do we build godly earbuds? I love what Pastor Steven Lawson said, “Do you want to hear the audible voice of God? Read the Bible out loud.” Certainly, reading the Bible is the place to start, and it's even better if you can do it out loud. Studies say there are many different kinds of learners, so use whatever method works for you. You may learn best by reading aloud, listening, writing it down, studying it, acting it out, telling others about it, drawing a picture of it, or some other method. Not sure how you learn best? Try them all. (Parents, note: your child's best learning method may not be the same as yours.) Ask the Lord to help you develop the habit of interacting with the Word morning and evening, even if it's just reading one verse. As a bonus, I've found that reading the Bible as I go to bed at night is helping me to get better sleep, which is a real answer to prayer!

Sing to the Lord! I can tell you with confidence that music is a very powerful learning tool. We all know it's much easier to memorize lyrics of popular songs than silent lists of dreary facts. Let's use this gift of song which God has provided to learn His promises. Here's part of my personal testimony: At age 13, I was saved through the influence of neighbors who invited me to a charismatic fellowship. There I learned dozens of songs whose lyrics were straight out of Scripture, and those songs have stuck with me for decades. Time after time, the Holy Spirit has brought those words to mind at just the right moment when I really needed help. God's word will not return void. It's always a good influence.

Who or what has the greatest influence on you at this moment? Jesus, help us to be under Your influence.

God is faithful,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – May 31, 2017 – Can't Afford a House?

This week I feature a guest contributor. I've asked my husband Dave to share the story of how his coworker bought a house. That experience had a big impact on us.

"Family Finances" by Davide C. Marney

When it comes to deciding how to support a household financially, there is really only one rule: money coming in must exceed money going out.  Both sides of that balance are equally important. Saving money is exactly the same as making it. For example, choosing not to buy a new car @ $300/month vs. buying a used one @ $150/month is exactly the same as if you had gotten a $1,800/year raise.

Finances should be looked at in terms of net value. Net value measures not only how much you saved or earned, but how much it cost you to do so. For example, a young family where both parents work full time outside the home will need to pay for child care. The additional cost of that care must be subtracted from the additional income of the second job. The remainder is the net value of the income.

When I had my first real job after college, I worked alongside a man whose wife had a very nice, high-paying job, making making much more than either of us were. His family had a toddler and an infant at home, as mine did. We lived in equivalent neighborhoods. However, my wife was working as a homemaker.

One day my coworker asked me how it was that I, on my one income, was able to own my own home, yet he wasn’t able to rub two pennies together. So, we sat down with side-by-side spreadsheets and we ran the numbers on our incomes and expenses. What we found was that I was slowly making money over time, but he, with more than twice the income, was actually losing ground.

The reason was simply this: his life was far more expensive than mine. They had to pay for full-time child care, which for an infant is very expensive. They had much larger clothing expenses, because they both had to maintain professional attire. They had to have two cars, and they both had to be in good repair. They were exhausted after working all day, so they rarely made meals at home, and paid for food delivery or went out to restaurants. Many repairs had to be paid for out of pocket. They took nice vacations because they were both completely stressed out and felt they needed it.

And the list went on. For literally every expense category his were either larger, or were for expenses I and my family just didn’t have. It was quite an eye-opener.

A couple of months later, he left the company and moved to Texas. And six months after that, he wrote to tell me that he had moved because of that spreadsheet exercise! He had found a job where they had on-site day care as a benefit. His wife found a job where she could work partly from home. They sold both cars and bought one for cash. And within six months, they were able to put a down payment on a new house that was only 20 minutes from work. Their new mortgage was half of what had been their rent. Yes, their new combined incomes were lower, but they were higher than their new expenses. They were now making money over time.

So yes, it is possible to “make it” on one income -- even today. You must run the numbers for your particular set of circumstances, and see where you can save as well as earn. You have to start small; you can’t expect to immediately move into the kinds of houses your parents own -- remember, they didn’t start off in that kind of house, either! 

To Dave's article above, I'd like to add that, after running the numbers, he and I decided to live on one income while I was home raising our kids.  Before we had children, we deliberately chose a starter home that we could afford on one income.  We cooked our own food, shopped at thrift stores, drove used cars and vacationed with relatives most of the time in those early years.  We put a lot of "sweat equity" into that little property, which enabled us to sell it for a significant profit.  

By God's grace, that profit became the down payment for our second (much larger) house, where we still live today. Following Spreadsheet Finance, we were able to pay off our mortgage several years ago.  Choosing a simpler lifestyle early on made all the difference in our being debt-free now.  Another note: we've been tithing at least 10% to the Lord since the day we were married, yes, even on one very small income.  It is possible and it is the Biblical path to financial blessing.  

God is faithful,
j

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – May 23, 2017 – Who is Watching You?

Who is watching you as you live day by day? Your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers? Since I set up a health web page to keep folks updated on my cancer journey, I've been increasingly aware that I'm putting myself out there to all the world.

I know I am taking a risk by clearly stating my faith in Jesus Christ on a public web site, but the Lord has made me more bold to share His truth in recent years. I don't know how this happened, but I have gained more confidence in the Lord. I have been struck by His command to share the gospel with boldness, not shrinking back in fear. This is a real challenge for me, having experienced persecution in my early days as a Christian teen. Even after leaving home, I was pretty gun shy about sharing my faith with unbelievers. I've always sought the approval of other people, especially those in authority.

Fear of man has been giving way to faith bit by bit as I come to know the Lord's love for me in deeper ways. I believe in His absolute acceptance of me, no matter what. To believe otherwise is to doubt the efficacy of the Cross of Christ. Others' approval of me has become less important as I get older (although their disapproval still hurts). God has been gracious to provide wonderful friends who do accept me. Christ is the solid Rock on which I stand, and the Christian community surrounds me with love.

We are to be ready in season and out to give an answer for our hope to anyone who may ask. “In season” is when you know you will be called upon to speak about the Lord, so you have plenty of time to prepare; “out of season” is when the unexpected happens to you, and there's no time to prepare. Someone dies, you lose your job, you're in an accident, you find out you have cancer. Life happens. All the sudden, you have to cope with catastrophe. Who is watching you?

I can tell you who's watching me: everyone! My husband and sons, my father and stepfather and their wives, my aunts, uncles, and cousins, neighbors, business contacts, longtime friends, Facebook friends, and acquaintances I just met last month. I want to be encouraging to believers and thought-provoking to people who do not yet know Jesus Christ. I have cancer: will anyone see my good works and glorify God in heaven because of this?

Who else is watching me? “The eye of the Lord is on those who fear Him, on those who hope for His lovingkindness.” - Psalm 33:18 “The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous, and His ears are open to their cry.” - Psalm 34:15 “The eyes of the Lord search the earth for the blameless, so that He can show His great power in helping them.” - 2 Chronicles 16:9 My loving Father sees everything, so I want to do well to please Him. He tests me to see if I will gladly run to Him in every difficulty, to see if I will trust in Him alone. How grateful I am that His power is made perfect in my weakness! I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. I enjoy supernatural peace that only the Lord can give.

Will you join with me in praying for the lost souls who are reading my health journal? May the Lord shine through my joy!

God is faithful,
j

If you wish to follow my cancer journey, I invite you to visit:
Site Link: www.caringbridge.org/visit/ Site Name: janetamarney 
CaringBridge is the most widely used social network for family and friends to give and receive strength during a health journey. 

The Weekly Encourager – May 3, 2017 – Trusting in the Lord

I am trusting in the Lord. I was awake much of Monday night, knowing in my spirit that the next day I would get the call telling me I have breast cancer. Not dreading, just waiting. Tuesday at lunch time I got the call as expected. The Lord in His kindness had prepared me in advance.

I have been wanting to write about Christian community for several weeks, but have not had opportunity. Now I get the privilege of reporting that my friends in the Lord have been a terrific support to me as I have gone through various tests, including two biopsies last Thursday. One cancer survivor told me I needed a prayer circle, so I sent out an email. Then I reported back with thanksgiving that God had answered their prayers for a less invasive procedure with minimal pain and quick recovery time. I felt calm throughout. I experienced the supernatural peace of Christ, thanks to His grace and their prayers. God is faithful.

Here is one of my life verses which describes God's work in me during the various procedures and weekend of waiting, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” - Philippians 4:6-7

Knowing I had the love, prayers, and support of my Christian community was a great comfort. Combined with the promises of God in His Word, they enabled me to continue with regular life: enjoying a garden tour with my family, finishing a big quilt commission for a customer, working on our internet business, worshipping in church, doing housework, watering my garden, singing with the Fairfax Choral Society, praying for the needs of others. I am trusting in the Lord. I am so blessed to belong to the family of God.

A note about community: there was not a huge outpouring from any one person, just an email here, a phone call there, a text from one person, a short visit from another. There are rare instances in life when you meet a person with whom you have an instant connection. There can be a deep tangible bond from only one conversation. But most good friendships develop over a long period of time, just doing ordinary things together and letting life happen. Over time, layer upon layer of small bits of sand accumulate into strong sedimentary rock. All these little bits add up to a huge deposit of grace. Next to Christ Himself, Christian friendship is our greatest gift from a loving God.

In my daily reading, I hit Psalms 90-92 in the past three days. No coincidence, but the Lord's timing. “Lord, Thou hast been our dwelling place in all generations, before the mountains were born...from everlasting to everlasting, Thou art God.” Life is short, “so teach us to number our days, that we may present to Thee a heart of wisdom….O satisfy us in the morning with Thy lovingkindness, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.” “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, 'My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust!'” God says those who love Him and know His name will be delivered. “He will call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble.” “It is good to give thanks to the Lord, and to sing praises to Thy name….The righteous will flourish….They will still yield fruit in old age.”

I am peaceful and thankful. This doesn't mean there won't be times of fear, worry and pain, but I know that God is sovereign. Cancer is just another part of my journey. He who has begun a good work in me will complete it. He will only bring what is needful to that end. “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I say, rejoice!” - Philippians 4:4. I am trusting in the Lord.

God is faithful and good,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney

The Weekly Encourager – April 13, 2017 – Thursday Thoughts

I woke up this morning thinking about the meaning of Maundy Thursday and Good Friday. As songs played in my head I contemplated, just for a few moments, Christ on the cross.

“This the power of the cross:
Christ became sin for us,
took the blame, bore the wrath;
we stand forgiven at the cross.”

“My sin, oh the bliss of this glorious thought,
My sin, not in part, but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, o my soul!”

“See, from His head, His hands, His feet,
Sorrow and love flow mingled down!
Did e'er such love and sorrow meet,
Or thorns compose so rich a crown?”

In social media there's a tradition called TBT, or Throwback Thursday. On Thursdays, people post photos from back in time: cute baby shots, how nerdy they looked in high school, their first car, or some other fond memory from the past. Well, today is Throwback Thursday, when we look back upon the most significant Thursday in history, the day when Jesus shared His last meal with the disciples on His way to the cross. Jesus broke the bread and poured the wine, and He washed their feet as a common slave would do. Look back, not with nostalgia, but with wonder that the Son of God came not to be served, but to serve.

A conversation last Sunday with K. and T. about forgiving our enemies has been on my mind all week. I've been thinking about how forgiveness truly is the purpose behind Easter. Most of us have heard the humorous quote, “If you haven't got your health, you haven't got anything!” I suggest the following: If you haven't got forgiveness, you haven't got anything. My sin put the Lord of Glory, God's only Son, on the cross. It is only as I contemplate how deep and wide is my own sin, that I begin to comprehend how deep and wide is the love of God.

The Cross: What did it mean then? And what does it mean now? It means that I am known, yet loved, accepted, cared for, forgiven beyond my human comprehension. I am forgiven stretching back into the past and forward into the future. God showed mercy while I was yet a sinner, therefore I can show mercy to others while they are yet sinners. If He can forgive me, He can forgive anyone. In remembrance of Him, today we look back, not at photos, but at God's Word. We take into ourselves the bread and wine of forgiveness, full and free! Then, filled with gratitude for His grace, we pour out our lives for our enemies. We bless them, we pray for them, we do good toward them, we are kind to them, we serve them, we share the gospel with them, we never give up hope for them.

“Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who have trespassed against us.” This is the power of the cross.

Good TBT,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney

”Power of the Cross” Written by Aaron Lindsey, Dayna Caddell, Israel Houghton, Ricardo Sanchez, Ricardo Angel Sanchez 
“It is Well With My Soul” Written by P P. Bliss, Gloria Roe
“When I Survey the Wondrous Cross” Written by Isaac Watts
“if you haven't got your health” Quote from “The Princess Bride”

 

The Weekly Encourager – March 29, 2017 – One Generation to Another

“One generation shall praise Thy works to another, and shall declare Thy mighty acts.” - Psalm 145:4

When I was younger, I used to think this verse referred to older people teaching the younger ones, in particular, parents training their own children. Now I'm older, I know that I can learn just as much from the younger folks as they can learn from me.

For example, I am fortunate to be part of a women's Bible study which includes Christian women of diverse ages. The last time we met, only four of us were able to come: two 20-somethings and two older moms. A comment from one person led to an excellent discussion about relationships and marriage. It was great to have a safe place to honestly share problems and practical solutions. The younger women are just starting out and trying to do it right; the older women are renewing relationships which may have suffered trials along the way.

In both cases, the challenges we face are sent by a sovereign God who loves us and works all things for our good. Of course we seek answers from His word, but one of God's best gifts to us is the Body of Christ. The fellowship of other believers is God's provision for our need. As I tried to encourage the younger ladies from my own experience, I found I was getting encouragement from them as well. In some cases, I've known these young women since they were born, and I have watched them develop into lovely ladies of faith. It's nice to know I've had a small part in that by being part of a community growing up into Christ, the Head. What a blessing to learn from them as they walk their own paths with the Lord. Likewise what a blessing to have had older ladies who mentored me at critical times in my life.

Now that I've moved from eyeliner to recliner, I am in no way superior to these younger believers. In fact, the longer I live, the more I realize the value of their contributions. While it's pleasant to hang out with people who are like ourselves, we grow as we connect with people from different backgrounds and in different stages of life, with different experiences and perspectives to offer. Seek out opportunities to befriend someone who is different than you. I think you'll find surprising blessing.

No matter what your age, make true fellowship a priority. Light-hearted activities are good, but we were also designed with a need to be known on a deeper level. We need a safe place to share, learn, laugh, and pray together. We need people who will tell us the truth, challenge us, and hold us accountable. That deeper level of freedom comes with trust, and faithful commitment over time helps make trust possible. When we find a place where we can share our struggles as well as our joys, then we are encouraging one another in Christ. It's even more special when it happens across generations. It becomes a successful family. We are building up our hope together as we tell one another how God is working in our lives.

“I will extol Thee, my God, O King; and I will bless Thy name forever and ever. Every day I will bless Thee, and I will praise Thy name forever and ever. Great is the Lord, and highly to be praised; and His greatness is unsearchable. One generation shall praise Thy works to another, and shall declare Thy mighty acts.” - Psalm 145:1-4

God is faithful,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney

The Weekly Encourager – March 22, 2017 – Old Bible, New Notebook

While packing for a church women's retreat, I saw an interesting juxtaposition. I was taking my trusty old Bible from the 1970s and a new notebook with a colorful graphic design. What a contrast: the faded, marked-up, dog-eared, tea-stained book held together with duct tape lay next to a bright spiral notebook of striking contemporary design. It occurred to me that the notebooks I select have changed over the years in color, style, and size, reflecting the mood of various times in my life. Certainly the content is different in each notebook, as I record new sermon notes, quotes, Bible verses, thoughts, prayers, and key events in my life. Different studies and experiences have taught me more things along the way, but they always harken back to the Book. The Word of God never changes, but we can always learn something new from it.

On the retreat, my friend Kathy Kuhl spoke on Renewing Hope. First, she gave us many Reasons for Hope in this world and the next, and every one of them was drawn from God's Word. In this world, we have hope that God will be with us whatever happens, God will sustain us through trouble, God is sovereign, God works all for good, we are being sanctified, and our ongoing sin takes us to the cross, and thus to joy. In the next world, we have hope that death is not the end, we will see Jesus face to face, we will be made like Jesus in glory and holiness, we will have new bodies, there will be no more tears, our sin will be forgiven, justice will conquer injustice, and we look forward to a new heaven and a new earth. All these reasons for hope are worthy of our meditation and thanksgiving to God!

Next, Kathy spoke on Guarding Our Hope, something I hadn't really pondered before. If we're feeling hopeless or depressed, it may mean that we're not guarding the gift of hope that God has given us. In this talk, she gave practical suggestions to prevent the erosion of our hope and to strengthen hope along the way. Among many good points was the reminder to be meditating on Biblical truths regularly, so that they permeate our thoughts. God's promises become positive messages that we tell ourselves, rather than the negative messages which so easily bedevil us.

One striking point was that stories are powerful, because they stick in our minds. What stories do I tell myself? Which character am I, the victim or the overcomer, the prisoner or the king's daughter? When I speak to others, are the circumstances of my life framed in hopeful terms, resting on the promises of God? Am I living out a story of hope which encourages those around me? I need to be careful to tell good stories, informed by Scripture.

By God's grace, I came away from the retreat with a desire to continue reading Scripture morning and evening, and to write down key verses in my notebook. The truth of the Bible is the same year after year, but we need to study it again and again, allowing the Holy Spirit to teach us. The more we interact with these timeless truths, writing them in our notebooks as the Spirit writes them upon our hearts, the greater our hope will be. The old Bible and the new notebook are perfect companions.

God is faithful,
j

Here is a link to Kathy Kuhl's website. This page tells more about her speaking generally:  http://www.kathys-/ 

 

The Weekly Encourager – March 10, 2017 – A Special Occasion

Today I am addressing you younger moms, especially you who are so serious about raising your child well. As Christian parents, of course you have a godly desire to raise good kids who will love the Lord. Your dedication is admirable. In addition, as parents in the internet age, you are bombarded with massive amounts of information, advice, and warnings from many sources. Naturally you want to do the best you can, but there's an overwhelming sense of guilt when you feel you don't measure up.

I'm like you: serious, devoted, responsible, organized, maybe a bit rigid. So when Dave and I were raising our sons, I was task-oriented. I read up on godly parenting and made sure I knew all the latest wisdom from the experts. I established rules and got my kids onto a good schedule for their benefit and ours. A predictable day gives a child security and establishes healthy habits for the future.

But I also found that bending the rules at times may actually make for better kids and a happier mom. The main thing is that YOU, not the child, get to decide when to bend or break the rules. Perhaps you're with family or friends you don't get to see often. Perhaps the child is sick, or you are sick. Maybe it's a holiday or someone's birthday. Maybe you're on a trip. Or it's one of those days when life has thrown an unexpected trial your way, or an unexpected opportunity to experience something new. You make sure that your child knows the rules, but as a parent, you get to make exceptions for “a special occasion.”

A younger mom (in her 30s) told me this story last week: she was training her baby to follow a regular feeding and sleep schedule, which is a good thing. During a rare visit with her in-laws, the mom had just gotten the child to sleep, when the grandfather asked if he could hold the baby. The new mother said, “No, baby needs to sleep now.” I think many of us have done this, and many have later regretted that relentless insistence upon the rules. That mom now realizes that her precious baby would have been just fine missing a few minutes of sleep, or even a whole nap, on that “special occasion.” Moreover, she could have been a channel of God's blessing to her father-in-law.

A grandmother (in her 60s) told me this story: she was visiting her daughter, who is very religious about “doing everything right” in childrearing. When Grandma was putting her grandchild into the crib at nap time, apparently the way she laid baby down was not in accordance with the latest medical advice, for there was a severe reaction from the young mom! How much better if the young mom could have just relaxed for a moment, trusted God with her baby's welfare, and shown loving respect to her own mother who was trying to help. After Grandma left the room, mom could have shifted baby to a different position. What could have been a “special occasion” of blessing turned into a stressful time for everyone; if mom's upset, the whole house is upset.

To you younger parents who are so serious that you've become anxious, I say, let go, relax a bit. Realize that giving up some of your standards is not the end of the world, but a re-ordering of priorities. A perfect schedule is a good thing, but not God's top priority. A completed list is a good thing, but not God's top priority. A perfectly clean house is a good thing, but not God's top priority. Excessive concern with the wisdom of experts is not godly, but reverence for the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Seek God first, and He will make your path plain. I want to tell you what a wise older parent told me when I was raising young toddlers: you are okay, you're doing a good job, it's enough. Trust in God, who gave you that child.

Oh, the perils of perfectionism! Let me assure you, no matter how hard you try, you will NOT raise perfect children! You are a sinner who got together with another sinner to produce little sinners. It's natural to feel burdened with the constant chore of caring for others. But you were not designed to do this alone. Jesus calls you, “Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” - Matthew 11:28-29. Your ministry now is to care for spouse and children, but not in your own strength. God gives us great burdens so that we have no choice but to lean on Him. Anxiety and guilt are two of the burdens we are not to bear. Leave them at the foot of the Cross. You are loved just as you are.

God is faithful and good,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney
As always, I welcome your comments below.

 


 

 

The Weekly Encourager – February 10, 2017 – True Love

Well, I messed up again. Surprised? You'd think after last week's post that I would have learned my lesson, right? Not. It turns out that these besetting sins just keep on besetting. The good news of the gospel is that I am loved, forgiven, and accepted in Christ, even though I continue to struggle with sin (and its effects). I am loved anyway! The good news of the gospel is that, when I apologized to the Christian sister I hurt with careless words, she was ready and willing to forgive me. Because of Christ's work in her life, she was able to be generous and gracious toward me, passing on the mercy she received from the Lord. I am loved anyway!

Since New Year's Day, I have been posting a positive quote on my Facebook page each day. This month, all the quotes are about love. These thoughts are not necessarily about romantic love, but the love our world needs now, the faithful and true love of Christ, family, and friends, as well as love for the stranger in our midst. Today's quote is, “True love is choosing the many things a person did right, rather than the one thing he did wrong. True love does not keep the record of wrongs.”

Because God chooses to see us through the lens of Christ's sacrifice for all our sins, we can choose to see others that way. Instead of judgement, we choose the way of mercy, knowing that our own failings are just as bad as the other person's, yet God is merciful to us. True love is not a feeling, but a choice to do what is right, even though we may be hurting. When young children hit each other, we teach them to apologize and forgive their siblings (whether they feel like it or not), but do we do the same, as adults, with our siblings in Christ?

True love is choosing to forgive, over and over, without keeping count. True love operates out of gratitude for God's grace. True love is freeing. True love brings peace.

God is faithful,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney
As always, I welcome your comments below.

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – February 1, 2017 – The Flip Side

“Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” - Proverbs 16:24

Do you struggle with ongoing sin that you can't seem to get rid of? I do. Anyone who knows me has seen my sin of speaking before I think. I'm told that sometimes I can be a good listener; I've learned how to make pleasant conversation with strangers. My words can be compassionate, helpful, thoughtful, or humorous as fits the situation. But other times I just let fly with whatever comes to mind, piercing people with poison barbs. When the Holy Spirit brings conviction, I feel pretty low.

A couple weeks ago, I had one of these terrible encounters in a small group of women. One lady proposed a charity project for our group, and several of us chimed in with suggestions on how it could be done. In my mind, I was just brainstorming like everyone else, eagerly offering ideas on how to maximize our time and efforts for the best result. However, some of the other ladies thought I was “taking over” the project. Perhaps in tit-for-tat mode, they spoke very rudely to me as I was leaving. I felt awful. It's so easy for me to see the “best” way to do something and take charge of a group. Sometimes this ability is welcome, and people have told me that they are glad to have someone step up to organize things. This was not one of those times. My intention may have been good, but my method was bad, and the group made sure I knew it. I felt that I had been a terrible Christian witness.

Thanks be to God, two ladies in the group came to me after the meeting and told me that the group's rude response to me was way over the top, and that people had lost sight of the fact that this was a charity project meant to encourage. The gracious words of J. and P. proved the truth of the proverb: their words were as sweet to me as the other people's words were bitter. Yet I still felt depressed. God has given me a certain personality which others don't like, and this often leaves me lonely. I hate to hurt people, yet it seems inevitable. I keep failing.

A few days later, our family was enjoying lunch after church, discussing current events at a busy café. As we talked about the president's new immigration policy and its possible effect on Muslims, our son made a comment about our nation being a-religious. At that point, a beautiful African-American lady sitting at the next table broke into our conversation, saying, “I'm sorry, but as a person of color, I can't sit here and listen to this hate speech.” Well, we were amazed that she had gotten that impression, because that is the last thing we were saying! Dave and our sons immediately responded, “Oh, no, that's not what we meant,” etc. Feeling the Lord's nudge and saying a quick prayer, I turned to her and began a one-on-one conversation while my family continued on with their separate thread.

This lady had been eating with her husband and three small children. Providentially, our two seats were ideally positioned for this private focused interchange. As I listened to her with genuine interest, she shared how she felt afraid for her children growing up as people of color in this nation, along with several other real concerns. It turned out that she was a lawyer and she had all the traits you'd expect: strong convictions, strong sense of justice, strong reasoning ability, strong verbal skills. But because of my own confident forthright speech, I was able to respond without being upset, angry, or offended. Her attack didn't intimidate me one bit. I was able to defend Christianity by saying that Jesus loved those whom others rejected or hated; prejudice is not a trait of true followers of Jesus. I was able to challenge some of her own beliefs. For example, seeing our group of four white people and hearing only fragments of what we were saying, she shouldn't assume that we were racists or that we voted a particular way, since that would be reverse racism on her part. I challenged several things she said, while agreeing wherever I could and showing compassion for her position. After a heart-to-heart talk with this stranger, some minutes later she had calmed down and was agreeing that she had pre-judged us without knowing anything about us. I asked for her name, we shook hands and parted as friends!

I felt good about that interaction. How many times in these past acrimonious months in our nation's history have I prayed, “Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace!” That conversation was a direct answer to my prayer. God did that. I continue to pray for “Val” that she will think about what I said. May the Lord work truth into her heart. As a servant of the Prince of Peace, I want to be ready in season and out to use every opportunity to advance peace, to fight fear and hate, to dialogue with those who are different, that we may discover how we are the same.

I still didn't see the broader significance of that day until my time a few days later with G., K., and M. As I told these trusted Christian sisters the two stories of my failure in the group project and the success in the café, my mind was opened. I realized that this is the flip side of my gift: I can use speech to calm the angry, to show compassion, to defend the faith, showing that Christians can be open-minded and open-hearted, all because of Christ. Not in spite of, but because of my strong personality, I was bold in response to Val's boldness. Note that, although my friends spoke kindly to me, only the Lord could give me the deeper comfort I most needed. That comfort is knowing that He made me the way I am for a purpose. He can use me and my gifts for His glory. Now I feel gratitude and wonder at what God can accomplish!

I have so much more to say, but it must wait. Friend, if you are reading this and feel like a failure, please know that God created every part of you – uniquely you – for His purpose. You may have some terrible trait, but there is a flip side. Ask Him to teach you how to use that trait for good, by His power. To God be all blessing and honor and glory and praise.

God is faithful,
j

Copyright 2017 Janet A. Marney
As always, I welcome your comments below.

 

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – December 18, 2016 – The Story Film

While researching a popular Christian speaker, I clicked on the “What We Believe” page of his church web site. What I found was the Gospel simply told in a beautiful six-minute film. It begins, “There is only one story that answers life's most essential questions...”

https://thestoryfilm.com/watch

Can you spare six minutes in your busy holiday schedule to see this? Are there others with whom you could share this vital message? This Gospel is the only reason to celebrate Christmas.

Merry Christmas! May the peace of Christ be with you,

j

 

The Weekly Encourager – December 12, 2016 – Presents or Presence?

What gifts are you hoping to get this Christmas? One year our family ran into another Christian family shortly after Christmas. The question each of them, from the oldest to the youngest, asked me was “What did you get?” I was a bit thrown off, since I don't put a lot of emphasis on expensive gifts. After many years, I've finally succeeded in convincing my family not to give me objects they bought at a store, but experiences that I will enjoy, preferably with the person giving the gift. Bonus points if you include other family members! During the last couple of years I've been so happy to go on special museum days with one son, and to special performances with my other son. My children's “x hours of tech support” coupons are always welcome, too. Last year my husband and I enjoyed a weekend away at a B&B as our Christmas gift to each other. A good friend and I went out for a nice dinner. With this approach, I get to spend time with my loved ones, and the joy of Christmas extends well into the new year.

Gary Chapman's famous book “The Five Love Languages” asserts that different people experience love in different ways. So I'd like to challenge you to find out what would make your family and friends the most happy. For me, what I want most is quality time together. It doesn't have to cost much money, but a few hours spent with someone means much more to me than another item of clothing or object for my house. Of course, I'm fortunate to have everything I need already, by God's generosity! Younger folks just starting out may desire practical items they need, and that's fine. Some people really value luxury gifts or experiences, while others appreciate deeds such as breakfast in bed, building a playhouse, cooking Christmas dinner, etc. Some people are waiting for words of affirmation, perhaps written in a letter or poem. Others long for good hugs or cuddles.

When asked what I got for Christmas, my usual answer is about the love, joy, and peace of Christ at this special time of year. Whatever kind of gifts we're giving or receiving this year, let us always be aware that the first gift of Christmas was not gold, frankincense, or myrrh, but a child. This Holy Child came to meet all our needs, including time (eternal life with Jesus and all the saints!), possessions (rich inheritance of grace and peace, mansions in heaven!), affection (beloved children of God in the fellowship of the Spirit!), deeds (He gave His life for us!), and affirming words (all the promises of the Bible!).

Jesus came with presence, to be God with us in the most meaningful, life-changing way. Through this gift, He mercifully and graciously meets our need for salvation from our sin. Remember, your child will follow your example, not your advice. When talking about gifts this Christmas, I encourage you to ask not, “What did I get?” but, “What did I give?” But first, ask, “What did God give?” and “Have I thanked Him lately?”

A blessed Christmas Season to all,
j

 

 

The Weekly Encourager – November 22, 2016 – A Prayer for Peace

The Weekly Encourager – November 22, 2016 – A Prayer for Peace

After such a contentious presidential election, when people are dis-inviting relatives to Thanksgiving dinner because they voted for a different candidate, I hope that no Christian person will disown family and friends over differing politics, religions, race, or life choices. Remember that Jesus ate with prostitutes, tax-collectors, and racists. The Righteous Judge of the World died with common thieves. He socialized with the powerful as well as the lowly rejects of society. Our Lord gave a healing touch to the untouchable, and He calls us to the same path. National holidays are a time to come together over what we have in common. Even if all we have in common with our relatives is food, let us start there to show the true love of Christ. Thanksgiving is a time to celebrate God and appreciate one another.

“Seek peace and pursue it.” - Psalm 34:14; 1 Peter 3:11

“As far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” - Romans 12:8

This year in particular, St. Francis's classic prayer seems very appropriate:

“Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy. O, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love; For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; it is in dying that we are born again to eternal life.”

Give thanks to God! Pursue peace. Humbly extend the healing touch of Christ to all, with no conditions. A happy, blessed Thanksgiving to you and yours.

God is faithful,
j

 

The Weekly Encourager – November 9, 2016 – Pray for our Nation

The people have spoken: the next president was elected yesterday. Whether or not we are happy with the outcome, we all should thank God that the transfer of power will happen in a peaceful orderly manner. The current president has already invited the president-elect to the White House to talk about effecting a smooth transition. Please do not take this for granted. Many people around the world long for such a system of government. Instead of an interminable monarchy or a bloody military coup, we have free and open elections. This is a huge blessing. “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things....and the God of peace will be with you.” - Philippians 4:8

Now our work begins. Whether or not we voted for him, now we must honor him. “Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.” - Romans 13:1

Whether or not we voted for him, now we must pray for him. “First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior.” - 1 Timothy 2:1-3

Here's what I'm praying today: Heavenly Father and Righteous King of the Cosmos, thank You for our nation and its system of government. Thank You for our long history of peaceful elections. Thank You for the many thousands of volunteers around the country who worked long hours at the polls to make our voting possible. Thank You for the passion of so many campaigners. We know that You call us to give thanks in all things, so we thank You for this man who will become our next president. Father, give him wisdom with humility. Help him to assemble the best possible team to act with integrity. Help him to select strong knowledgeable advisors who will help him make wise and just decisions. Wherever possible, place Your people in positions of leadership, and may the new president be open to Your truth, however it may reach him. Give this man a proper sense of his role in history and the high calling of leadership at home and abroad. May he act with humble grace and equity toward all people, regardless of political party, gender, race, age, education, wealth, or other distinctions. May every citizen's voice be heard. May he begin to build relationships with those whose views differ. May his work be productive and effective from the start. May his best qualities come forward and his worst ones recede. Lord, restore the people's confidence in our government. Show us the good, and let us be grateful.

Whether or not we voted for him, now we must heal as a nation. I challenge everyone reading this to find one other person who voted differently than you, and reach out in reconciliation. This is not a time to judge or to gloat, but to heal relationships. Not a time for bitterness, but betterment. “Seek peace and pursue it.” - Psalm 34:14 I am praying also for the candidate who lost this election, and all those who supported her. As Christians, may we be instruments of the Lord's peace in the coming days, weeks, and months. We have a wonderful opportunity to testify to the love of Christ. May the world know that we are Christians by our love.

God is faithful, so keep on praying!
j

Copyright 2016 Janet A. Marney. I welcome your comments below.

 

The Weekly Encourager – November 2, 2016 – Politics and Friends

There is less than one week until the most contentious presidential election in our nation's history. The run-up to this election has been a roller coaster of revelations about one candidate after another. Just when we're convinced that Person A is the worst candidate ever, something new and awful comes out about Person B.

While the media has been revealing shocking things about current candidates for public office, what has the Spirit been revealing about us? Are we growing in grace and being instruments of peace during this process? Are we focusing on the good, true, pure, and noble in others, while praying earnestly for all those in authority? Are we setting a good example for our children or coworkers, showing how the Lord views the political process? Are we bringing light to a wounded world, or spreading darkness with our words? Has this political season made us more convinced of all people's need for a Savior, more humbly grateful for the mercy of God upon our own souls, and more thankful for the sure hope of Heaven?

I think the devil is having a grand time watching all the Christians react to this election cycle. The devil deals in discord. Don't play his game!

The fallout to friendships is perhaps the most sad. Jesus said to love our neighbor and to love our enemies, yet I've seen Christians on social media “unfriend” whole groups of people because they disagree on political issues and candidates. It's so sad to see Christians being unkind to others, calling them names, and rejecting friends they've known for years! Our nation's founders envisioned a friendly form of politics, not politics used to divide friends. This nation was founded on the freedom to think (and vote) as we please, but we do have the right to try to persuade others of our point of view. How is this to be done? Use reason, not rudeness.

Christians, whether in person or through social media, must be kind, tenderhearted, forgiving. So if your friend supports a different candidate, or is on the other side of an important issue, treat him with brotherly love anyway. What would Jesus do if He were on Facebook? I believe He would treat all people with dignity, knowing that all are sinners justly deserving the wrath of God. Jesus would listen carefully to the views of those who disagreed with Him. Then He would speak the truth in love, using calm words to defend His views. He would not answer a fool according to his folly, but He would never return evil for evil. He would pray and trust God. He would never give up hope!

“Now the works of the flesh are evident...enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions...I warn you...those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” - Galatians 5:19-22

Pray! Vote! Pray! And don't let friendships dissolve over disagreements.

God is a faithful friend. May we be faithful friends like Jesus.
j

Copyright 2016 Janet A. Marney. I welcome your comments below.